I don’t need oils I have wine!
Oh this line terrifies me.
I get that alcohol is a major part of Australian culture.
I also get that it’s the single most destructive drug in the country too, contributing to more death, violence, abuse, marital issues and hospital visits than pretty much anything else.
There was a time and there will probably be times in the future I have a drink or ten to celebrate something but alcohol to cope with life?
It terrifies me to ever need to go there.
It terrifies me that this is promoted practice.
At wakes people get smashed.
Hard day at work – knock off drinks.
A slab is purchased for debriefing after trauma call outs.
Mums drinking wine to cope with kids is glorified and normalised so much it’s assumed that that’s what everyone needs to do.
And it terrifies me.
I look at my 5 daughters who will be adults in this world and I think what do I want to show you supports me.
On a day to day basis what do I want to teach you about coping with struggles/resilience and the place for pain in our lives.
Now I know I haven’t felt a pain so intense that I couldn’t fathom how to cope anymore. So I have no idea how I will do life when I am there. To my loved ones in this sort of pain I get why you don’t want to feel.
But I do know that glorifying drinking to squash problems isn’t saved for loss of loved ones.
I do know it’s a major societal issue and it hurts my heart when I see the destruction alcohol leaves in its path.
I do know that it’s currently more normal to have a wine or half a bottle or a beer or six each night after work than tome spend hovered over a diffuser filled with natural supports like essential oils.
I do know that the way I used to cope with the emptiness in my life was so abusive to my body and my mind that I don’t ever want to go back there because the health issues I faced aren’t there anymore thanks to living more naturally.
And I do know this message is going to hear a whole lot of fuck you’s – but nothing ever changes without pissing off a few people and I love nothing more than hearing when people have decided to go alcohol free for more than just Dry July.
Because that’s where societal change happens. Individuals doing individual things for the benefit of all.
Because society using alcohol as a band aid terrifies me.
Because despite your reactions right now it’s because I love you so much that I care what you’re doing to yourself, what humans are doing with this life they have been gifted.
And the fact the thought of losing alcohol triggers such an intense response tells me we all really need to go there.