I’m super excited to have you here and would love to take this opportunity to give you a brief snapshot of who I am.
Just in case you haven’t worked it out already (I’m sure you have!) my name is Katrina Ryan. I am the proud single mum of 5 amazing and curious daughters aged 16, 9, 7, 5 and 2.5 years. I talk about my children a lot on here because Mum is the role I identify with most.
That is how all of this came to be in the first place.
You see the snapshot of my life I want to focus on here is my becoming a mother – five times – and how much that has changed me and the way I see things and do things now and how I have come to realise that my self love and self care is one of the most important parts of the ‘success’ equation.
When I had my first daughter, I was 21 years old and very much so out to prove to onlookers and those with the loudest opinions that I could do this. I had left an abusive relationship when I was 6 months pregnant and set out to start again
With this move though I failed to acknowledge just how I wanted to parent and instead tried to follow every text book known to man and make sure that it looked like I was doing all the ‘right’ things.
This was the very beginning of me learning that no matter what I did, someone was going to disapprove.
It took until my second child, who we later found out was autistic, for me to really realise that I can’t do what society tells me I should be doing if I am to be a good mum to these children. Because my second child didn’t fit the box at all and no matter how hard I tried to make her fit, to make her sleep, to make her feel comfortable with strangers she didn’t.
My third taught me even more lessons, we later found out the she was also autistic and had defiant tendencies, she would scream in meltdown around the clock but filled our hearts with so much joy we soon learnt that love can look like cuddling a fire cracker.
By the time I had my 4th child, doTERRA Essential Oils started to fit in.
I was getting incredibly consumed by trying everything to help my girls cope better with life. I wasn’t doing anything for myself, I was dedicating my time around the clock to researching what my children needed to cope better. I was adamant my time was for later and this time I was to dedicate every thing I had to the girls. When I found essential oils it was another thing I was willing to try to try and help them cope with everyday life better. At this point in time we were just surviving. I was bitter, exhausted and volatile and I needed something to change.
I’m not going to try and sell you some miracle story. My girls still struggle with anxious feelings, have issues with sleep and scream a lot BUT the introduction of a blend named Peaceful Child meant that they were able to follow a simple instruction without a meltdown, it meant that little things that would normally takes us hours to work through would be done in half an hour, we could go more places for longer and they slept more than they had before. These oils took the edge off for them and for me.
When I started using essential oils on myself and diffusing them daily adding them into our food, I discovered just how much more energy I had to put into finding out what I actually wanted from life. This isn’t just a special needs mum issue. This is so many women’s issues. Burning the candles at both ends we live to survive and achieve not thrive and celebrate.
That was me. I was just battling through every day surviving, waiting for bed time but dreading it too because bedtime was brutal. With essential oils in my life I had something to take the edge off, and I then found I had the energy to look at what it would take to thrive. A thought that seemed impossible with our lifestyle.
I now have 5 daughters (the 5th my only child conceived without fertility treatment), I homeschool/unschool and that has allowed me to really work with my girls needs as well as allow them to explore their interests, I run this successful essential oil/ empowering women business from home and I can leave my kids with my husband or mother to go on business trips and workshops, something that was also impossible for a while.
My mission, because of the life I used to lead compared to now, is to help people who are in the position I was in – spending more time focused on proving yourself to other people that you forget about proving yourself to yourself. I want women feeling free enough to live their own lives and make their own choices despite what the people around them are saying they should be doing. I want mothers of high need children to know that they still matter and their self care is their greatest asset in supporting these children to thrive themselves. I want all women celebrating just how incredible they really are, forgiving themselves for the things they were taught made them flawed, and finding their personal power to say no to things that don’t sit right and yes to the things they really want.
I am obsessed with all the things that make my life better today than it was years ago. Essential Oils, travelling, unschooling, clean eating, radical acceptance, toxic free living, surrounding yourself with people that are cheering you on not bringing you down and celebrating motherhood in all of its chaos and roller coaster ride of emotions.
My tribe is filled with people doing life differently than me. What we have in common is that drive to lift people up not push them down and help them to realise that what matters in this life is not perfection or even striving for perfection but that you’re trying your best to live life in line with your priorities- whatever they may be.
I hope to fill this website with that voice. Share with you when I’m struggling. Share with you when I’m on a high. Honest conversations about how life really looks for me so we can together tear down this facade of people doing life perfectly and remove the shame around making mistakes or dropping the ball.